If you’d realize how much impact loneliness has on your physical well-being, you would strive to surround yourself with meaningful relationships all the time. Creating social connections is the only way of ensuring that being lonely is not part of your existence.
It has often been said that being alone does not necessary mean that you are lonely while on the other hand you could be in the company of the people you love the most, but feel lonely.
Loneliness as a state of emotions can be a harsh experience and it is mostly a result of lacking a connection to your circumstances, situation and the people who surround you.
Following a major event in our lives or a major change in the way things happen, loneliness may slowly or rapidly creep in.
Modernity as we see it in the 21st century is not helping amid the much technological advancement that is happening everywhere. Humans are social beings and social media creates an illusion of association when in fact people’s energies do not connect.
Studies done by the mental health foundation of America indicate that people between the ages of 18 and 34 feel lonely more than any other age group. This is the age when most people are advancing their studies, building their careers and traveling all over the world as volunteers and aid workers.
The physical implications of loneliness on the body cannot be ignored because cellular changes have been linked to loneliness in clinical studies.
The body is equipped with intricate survival mechanisms and the most sensitive one is the defense mechanism.
When one begins to lack emotional connections, the body reacts as if in a hostile environment. As a result, one’s immunity goes down.
Luckily, anyone can snap out of loneliness, though it takes practice…
Here are the three crucial steps to restoring the cellular balance of the body:
- Push yourself to attend social gatherings even if you may not feel like it. There is a lot of faking and concealing that happens in social media and while you may genuinely desire to connect with people, they may have different agendas.
- Take responsibility of yourself by accepting the fact that human beings actually have control over their lives. This realization is a great tool for empowerment because it gives you the courage to change your line of thinking. Draw your own plan of social interaction that includes those that you want to associate with.
- Creating lasting and meaningful friendships is the only way to ensure that you associate with people that share the same emotional energy as you do. Friendships are about choice and you need not be afraid to cut out friends that do not bring any real value to your life.
Especially when the Holidays come around which makes it even Worse too.
Hi my name is Bernie Feldberg and I am 57 years old and I have two brothers and one sister the three of them are married and I am the only single siblings but even though they have there own families which I understand but they still don’t call me they don’t keep in touch with me at all and that breaks my heart.i am the second oldest and I don’t have many friends so I am always feeling lonely and sometimes I feel like I want to end my life. But I would never do that what can I do to be happy again
Bernie,
You are not alone in this. A lot of people are going through what you are going through. The best solution is to love yourself. Make yourself happy. No one can make you happy as yourself.
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Bernies comment is familiar to me as I was that way in my 20s. I was in a mode of work which was solitary so I didn’t have the office type friendships etc that would’ve been somewhat fulfilling. What I did do was find interest in foreign movies such as Federico FELLINI and would take myself to cinemas on Sundays and sit through learning the language fawning over the wardrobes. Found myself learning bits of Italian and with the French director Cocteau started to learn bits of French. End of story life became more interesting and I was more outgoing.