Your loved one left you with a broken heart and an intense pain that will not leave. Luckily, you have the power to mend your hurting heart!
7. Stop with the Questions
A broken relationship could lead to a broken heart. If you come out of a relationship wondering why your loved one left, it becomes difficult to focus on anything else.
You question everything – yourself, your worth, what you did wrong etc. While recovering from a broken heart, the last thing you need are questions; what you need is to focus on yourself, so you will get better.
Healing a broken heart – your broken heart – does not happen in a day, neither is there a blueprint for the perfect way to do it.
There are, however, some ways to ensure that you set yourself on the path to healing. Here are 6 more easy steps that may help you:
6. The Power of Thought
When we have been hurt once, we tend to exist in a state of fear. This fear stops us from moving forward and going on with our lives.
A positive mindset and absence of negative thoughts is very important, if we intend to leave regret behind us!
Staying angry is much easier than choosing not to. It will also cause that negativity to bleed slowly into every aspect of your life. Instead, choose to help the healing process by thinking happy thoughts.
Remember the requirements needed to stay airborne in Neverland – that is right, pixie dust AND happy thoughts!
5. The Power of Hope
The movie, “The Tale of Despereaux” has a quote in it:
“There is one emotion that is stronger than fear, and that is forgiveness.”
Learn to forgive and start with yourself. This is crucial because with forgiveness comes hope.
If you do not believe that you will be in a better place a week from now, you will never move on.
Hope that this aching empty space inside of you is not eternal. You might not feel like leaving the bed today but you will find the prospect of sharing a cup of coffee with friends cheering tomorrow.
Forgive yourself and you will have shown hope your door!
4. The Power of Acceptance
Accept that it has happened. Instead of being hard on yourself while trying to heal, acknowledge your heartbreak. Allow yourself the time to delve into each emotion and simply feel.
Not allowing yourself to feel and suppressing your hurt is not healthy in any way. You were not meant to be a robot — humans feel.
Suppressing hurt will only make the cup spill over into other areas of your life. Never be embarrassed by what you are going through and allow your heart the time to grieve.
3. The Power of Physical Activity
Work out your grief… quite literally! Physiology dictates that when you exercise, levels of serotonin and norepinehrine increase.
These increased levels cause the brain to release chemicals that foster nerve cell growth.
Running, swimming and other sorts of physical exertion will improve your physical and emotional health. When you take charge of your life, you feel in control.
This feeling will translate into the power to turn your life around and make you do something to achieve it.
2. The Power of Creativity
Be creative. Let your creative side come out through writing or singing/ dancing or drawing. Having a passion that you can lose yourself in, would be a big help. Use it to lose yourself in it and then watch it heal you.
Some of us use music as our escape, others write to get away from the hurt. Find a healthy escape and use it to express yourself. Draw or paint your heartbreak on the canvas and watch yourself get better as you do!
1. The Power of Lists
When you feel like you are the worst person that ever walked this earth, simply make a list of why you might be wrong. Listing your strengths when you are down in the dumps and feeling defeated or torn is a good way to buck yourself up.
If you have earned a pat on the back because of your cold stone sobriety, have at it. Listing what you have achieved in life will help you tackle the challenge at hand.
It will make you realize that you are, in fact, a productive individual with a lot to recommend your ol’ self!
Take each day as it comes. Happy Healing! ♥