People are varied and beautiful in their differences. Some of these differences can make it difficult to show someone affection and love. Highly sensitive people fit well in this category.
Normally short of self assurance and in need of love, a person must walk on eggshells to reach them.
Here are some shortcuts to help you show this person that you value them.
1. Speak Softly
Don’t yell or sneak up on them. They are easily startled and stimuli affect them more so than others.
Their version of what is a good time frequently differ from the norm.
2. Don’t Pressure Them and Give Them Space
They may not want to go out or chill with you or others. They may not really ever drink.
Respect their decisions even more so.
It isn’t as much that they don’t want to be with you as much as they want to be alone.
3. Avoid Arguments
Conflict makes them retreat even further into themselves.
Seek alternative means of resolution.
If things get particularly heated then leave and let them cool down before resuming talks.
4. Take Their Criticisms As Compliments
Their sensitivity makes them very critical of ‘mistakes’.
They fear being made fun of, being wrong or looking foolish.
If they see you doing something wrong in public, they imagine you have the same sensitivity and freak out for you.
5. They Appreciate Silence
They enjoy good company and conversation just like everyone else.
They also value silence just as much. Let them choose between silence and conversation.
6. Great Listeners
They are great listeners but who listens to them? make sure that they know they have a safe space to express themselves around you.
Don’t pressure them into talking to you.
Do prompt them to share their feelings, as sometimes they may be afraid to.
7. They Might Avoid Social Situations
All that external stimuli can strongly affect them making them tired, irritable, or on edge.
8. Ask Questions And Try To Understand Them
Each person is unique. Ask questions and watch them carefully to better understand their needs and wants.